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After almost 19 years of always having a little person by my side daily, I am on day 4 of not having any of my people around during the day. I know lots of people have gone through this before and I know my days will get full, I'm just having a hard time with the change right now.
How have you learned to deal with big life changes?
(I know that there's not too many of you out there reading this and I know not many folks like to respond-but if any of you have any wisdom to share, my tissue box and I would be very grateful)
And,
if you're new around this blog, you can visit this post. It might explain a lot.
I'm sorry I don't have any real words of wisdom. What really helped me was finding ways to stay busy even if it's taking time to read a book or start a new hobby. I suffered worst when G-1 left on his mission because G-4 was in first grade and my house was empty. I literally cried almost every day for six months. I am not usually one that misses my kids when they are away but for some reason I really had a hard time. When G-3 left on his it was no problem at all because I had G-5 home with me keeping my mind occupied.
ReplyDeleteVolunteer, start a new craft, work your blog, work you body, work your mind, heck, take a nap! Anything to keep your mind of the fact that the house is way too quiet now.
If that doesn't work you could come visit me!!!!
I am right there with you. I've been blubbering ever since school started last week and I haven't stopped yet. Your visit today worked miracles though. Maybe we need to hang out a few times a week.
ReplyDeleteI guess I couldn't handle the all day quiet either, so I went and made myself another kid. I wouldn't recommend that! :)
ReplyDeleteMy little boy headed to college earlier this week, and you would not believe how happy I was that he decided to come home for a visit this weekend. And... I refuse to believe that his real reason for coming home was to return a non-functional refrigerator. :)
ReplyDeleteI think it helps chase the blues away, if you have something to look forward to. For many years, on the first day of school, I would get all the kiddies settled in, then I would go bowling. It burned off all the energy normally spent on worrying, and it was something I got to do any way I wanted. (I'm NOT a good bowler.) Always followed by having lunch at some fast-food place because that was a rare treat back then. Teachers usually like to have a Mom volunteer for an hour or two a week, and you can most always sneek a 'thumbs up' or a grin from your child while you're there. If you go on Wednesdays, it breaks the lonely week right in half! Ponder the things you like to do, the things you wish you had time to do, and the things that are waiting in some box in the garage/elsewhere. Start doing something that makes you feel a sense of happiness and accomplishment. Make something for your kids for Christmas, or rearrange the furniture in your house, or serve someone. Just a few things I have tried over the years that work. :) P.S. It's normal to miss your kids. After all, they WERE your hobbies, your projects, your spare time, for many years. But get up, dust yourself off, and go to lunch with your Mr.! Then stop at the fabric/craft store on your way back home. :) Love You.
ReplyDeleteI am so grateful to you all! Thursday was a very weird day.
ReplyDeleteShari - I wish!
Alyson - very thankful for you and Misty!
Laura - been there done that, not doing it again-but very happy for you & your toes that you can no longer see
Le'Ann - LUCKY!
Grandma T - You are a very wise woman. Implementing ideas. I will report later.
Today was much better and I am on my way to figuring me & my time out. Thanks to your advice and kind words.